I have really strong feelings for my best friend, who is also my neighbor. Not many people like him because he has a bad boy reputation. But so much has happened in his life, and he’s changed now. I can see through all of that, and actually see the person he is. He even acknowledges that I’ve been one of the first people who has cared for him and made him want to be a better person. In the beginning, he proclaimed that he had a crush on me. At that time, knowing his reputation I kept my distance. But it’s been a year now and we’re practically best friends. I know practically everything about him, and he’s been there for me in my tough times. He cares about me a lot, and is really protective of me. Of course, he teases me a lot, occasionally said I look beautiful or hot in what i wear. He knows when Im in a bad mood and cheers me up easily. He doesn’t like to see me cry and loves being around me. Its pretty much mutual. But besides that, he has always felt a need to tell me everything. Three months ago, my best friend, who knew I liked him a lot, met him one day, and the next day they started dating. At that time, he had no idea I felt that way with him. She backstabbed me, and to this day I haven’t forgiven her. On top of that, she confessed to him that I liked him, and he was shocked. I avoided him, didn’t talk to him, avoided his calls etc. He spoke to me one day and said that I should have been frank in the beginning. Then, he added he still wanted our friendship to continue, and didn’t want to lose it. I didn’t see him for a month. He stopped trying to talk to me. Out of the blue, I was really upset, so I went over to his place. I don’t know why, but I just had to meet him. I cried, he listened, consoled me, gave me his sweater because I was cold. That night, he told me he was planning on breaking up with my friend. He literally said he saw something in her that was in me. But, it turned out he was wrong. After that, we went back to being good friends.I thought I was completely over him, but I still don’t know. The saddest part is, he’s most probably moving after three months. Today, we were sitting on his roof, and just hanging out. Many of my friends have said we should just date. I told him about what my friends said, but of course I don’t really think that is going to happen. He replied to that saying, he doesn’t want to get in a relationship because he doesn’t want to lose what we have now, and neither do I. I mean once you date, eventually there may be fights and a break up. And usually it is hard to reconcile with your ex. He doesn’t want me to be his ex,and he doesn’t want to hurt me because he will never be able to forgive himself for doing that to me. He actually said all that to me, and I can tell when he’s lying or being fake, and he was not. Honestly, I don’t know what’s going on. What we have is beautiful, and I don’t want to lose that. But I’m perplexed with how I feel and how he feels too.
Recently, we were again on non-talking terms. I still have this huge soft corner for him but he is obsessed with this one girl who was the first person to say “no” to him. He’s been more obssessed with her for nearly two years. He claims that he wants to move on, find someone else, get into a serious relationship. We had a fight regarding this and I told him I needed some time away from him because he sort of messed me up. I confessed that I still had feelings for him, Im not sure if he exactly reciprocates it but its more like im only his “best-friend”. He tried covering up saying that he’s not good enough for me, and it would be awkward and stuff. But lately, after our “break” he said he thought about us a lot and brought the idea that maybe we should try it out? I don’t know if it’s genuine. I know 100% that he cares for me a lot! But if he actually felt something, he would have said something earlier when I told him how I felt, right? Well, I said no anyway. Plus, there’s prom coming up and he’s told my friend that he’s going to ask me as a date. But everytime we talk, he’s goes on and on about how prom is supposed to be perfect and that he wants to take out the girl he’s obsessed with, a girl who he doesn’t personally know. He’s very very confused basically. Oh and he has a pretty big dating reputation, wherein he’s dated a lot of girls and is now just looking for something a little serious.
In love, with best friend..what to do with our relatioship?
- Should we consider dating? (63%, 10 Votes)
- Is he actually genuine about the fact that we should try it? (13%, 2 Votes)
- Does he like me like that? (13%, 2 Votes)
- Move on? (11%, 2 Votes)
Total Voters: 16
- Should i go for my best guy friend?
- What Should I Do When My Best Guy Friend is Dating My Worst Enemy?
- Should I Break Up With Him Or Cheat On Him?
- Should we date now or wait to see what happens?
- Does my friend trust me?
This question was submitted by Aria